9 Reasons Why you should be Kinder

Have you ever had an off day? You know the type of day where everything seems to go wrong, where it seems like every person you interact with has a personal vendetta against you? Like all the people and things you deal with are completely against you? I am not even being dramatic here because we have all been there, it’s like you just can’t seem to catch a break.

Think about the last day you felt like that.

Work, family, friends, finances any number of things can add to the stress, shaping a day that has the potential to plummet into the abyss. But what about when you are in that terrible mood and you share your frustrations with the people you interact with? You spread the negative vibe. A domino effect begins.

What if you spread the negativity with someone else and you later found out that person has a mother who is dying of cancer, a sick child, is filing for bankruptcy, is trying hard to conceive a child and is unable. What if the person you are interacting with has depression feels miserable every day of their life due to a chemical imbalance. What if that person fights every single day to have a good day? What if today is a good day for that person and you just shit all over their happiness? How would you feel about that?

I bet you would feel terrible. Because the truth is every single person has something hard they are dealing with in their life, every single person has problems, and most times you would never know a thing.

Do you want to be the type of person who impacts people’s lives in such a negative way that you are also left feeling terrible? Probably not.

I know it’s hard when you are in the heat of the moment to not lash out, to pull your own self off the edge. But I am telling you being kinder is a skill you should strive for, for the betterment of your own life and the lives of the people you love.

Kindness really matters!

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1. Because kindness is contagious…

I learned this from my aunt on her birthday, she proved to me that kindness is contagious. When the people around you are kind, give unconditionally and are happy it will be that much harder for you to stay in a pissed and rotten mood. So be the bigger person, summon your inner positivity gods and be the person in your family, workplace, or circle of friends that set the mood. A kinder more positive mood.

2. Because kindness makes you happier…

Volunteering has made me realize this fact. So whether it’s helping your elderly neighbor with groceries, doing a favor for a friend or making soup for a sick loved one.The truth is when you are kind to others you are left smiling. Often times it will be hard for you not to. Unless you get sick from that loved one who you made soup for, then you might kick yourself but I can bet your friend will be likely to return the favor.

3. Because kindness helps you live longer…

Don’t believe me? Well, how about you take some advice from the world’s oldest women? She says the key to a long life is kindness… I rest my case.

4. Because kindness provides pure motives…

I personally find that when kindness is present in my life, whether through me or the people around me I am better able to make decisions. There is a link, making choices and kindness is a two-way street, and being kind to yourself will lead you to make good choices for yourself. Kindness helps drive you positively.

5. Because kindness leads to more positive emotions…

Kindness is the gateway drug to other positive emotions. If there is happiness, love, or laughter you will find kindness there also.

6. Because people want to be kind…

Unless you are the Charles Manson type, you will be glad to know that people want to be kind. Even your evil boss wants to be kind, he or she may have just lost their way. And remember practicing understanding is also kindness.

7. Because kindness enriches your life…

People who are kind have great lives, surrounded with people who love them unconditionally. Memories of happiness and pleasure fill a life where kindness is found.

8. Because kindness changes your perspective…

When you practice kindness your perspective will become kinder ones. You will no longer assume the worst but begin to see the best in situations.

9. Because kindness helps people…

Nurses, firefighters, social workers, doctors. We need people like that in the world to help us every day. Those same people also need people to be kind to them, keep that in mind when dealing with anyone providing you a service. Be grateful, be kind.

So if someone is being unkind to you, don’t give in to the negativity. Give them a dose of kindness back. They might catch the bug, or benefit from one of the reasons above.

There is enough negativity in the world, what we need is not more people trying to “tell it like it is” or “giving a dose of reality” what we need are kindness and love.

So go forth, be kind and spread the love.

What are some reasons you think we should be kinder?




  1. Simply Vanella | 9th Oct 15


  2. Madeline Johnson | 9th Oct 15

    Such a beautiful post! You are quite incredible and amazing for sharing this – thank you for the reminder. Kindness is like doing the right thing. It makes the world a better place. Have a wonderful weekend!

    • StephJ | 9th Oct 15

      Thank you! I hope you also have a great weekend!

  3. Nena | 9th Oct 15

    This is beautiful:) And kindness is correlated with longevity:) One of the main reasons why I started Pay It Forward Friday on my blog:)

  4. Enlightenment Angels | 9th Oct 15

    Reblogged this on ENLIGHTENMENT ANGELS.

  5. socialworkerangela | 9th Oct 15

    I try to be kind as I follow the golden rule our try to but a reminder is always nice as to why we should… And being nice is less stress 🙂

  6. TamiSiobhan | 9th Oct 15

    Great post 🙂 a good reminder to be kind even if I’m having a bad day myself. There’s always someone out there having a worse day

  7. tiffandsauce | 11th Oct 15

    This is definitely a reminder I need on a regular basis. My yoga instructor always ends our session with bringing your hands to your lips to remind yourself to speak only words of kindness, then to your forehead for thoughts of compassion just before Namaste. It really sets you up to act on that promise you make to yourself.

  8. hooklineandinkwell | 13th Oct 15

    Kindness grows exponentially…great write!

  9. Walking My Path: Mindful Wanderings in Nature | 16th Oct 15

    Great post. So important. The gateway drug. I love it!

    • StephJ | 16th Oct 15

      I’m glad you liked it 🙂

  10. Kris Moller's Blog | 17th Oct 15

    Hi StephJ, Well said! Keep blogging!

  11. helpingsoul | 17th Oct 15

    Thanks for checking out my blog femmevolution and liking the article on Forgiveness.

  12. Laura P. Schulman, MD, MA | 18th Oct 15

    Great post! Thanks, I needed that….

    • StephJ | 18th Oct 15

      Thank you. I am glad you enjoyed it 🙂

  13. seaangel4444 | 31st Oct 15

    Excellent post! I just found your blog on Suzie’s Halloween Blog Party Post! I’m looking forward to reading a lot more of your writing! Cher xo

    • StephJ | 31st Oct 15

      Great! Thanks for stopping by 🙂

  14. cb | 31st Oct 15

    Reblogged this on Contrafactual and commented:
    I aspire to be like this. Most days I succeed. Sometimes I don’t, but later wish I had.

  15. Silver Threads | 12th Nov 15

    This is a very impressive post from someone so young. I am much older and practicing kindness everyday has helped me so many times. People respond to it and then my day was better.

    • StephJ | 12th Nov 15

      Amazing! Thank you so much, I have always been referred to as “an old soul”. However recognizing what needs to change and improve is only the first step, actually practicing it takes time! And I am nowhere near where I would like to be with things such as “kindness”. Not yet anyway. Thanks again for the lovely comment!

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