Searching for Happiness – Self Love Books

“She turned to the sunlight And shook her yellow head,And whispered to her neighbor- -Winter is dead.” (7)I have been reading like a madwoman this year. My reading adventures have consisted of biographies, fiction, non-fiction, and self-help. One thing I have discovered on my reading adventures is that there are a lot of really, really bad self-help books out there. Seriously… In fact, it is no wonder why more people don’t read these types of books. Many can be overwhelming and unmotivating, leaving you feeling confused and discouraged.

Don’t let those bad books discourage you from gaining the benefits of the good self-help books that are out there! Reading books in the self-love and self-development categories have been my greatest discovery this year, and I have found a few that make up for the not so good advice lingering around out there.

When it comes to searching for happiness it all boils down to self-love, without loving yourself how can you love others? Or the world? How can we really express gratitude and acceptance if we can’t feel it towards ourselves? Some people struggle with this more than others and have to put in more work. Or maybe we are all drowning in a sea of self-confusion and doubt at times.

Regardless I am on the search for inner love of the highest degree, and this is the beginning of a long journey ahead. These particular books have been a great help for me on this winding path and as I discover self-love, I discover much happiness in the process.

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The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom

If you read no other book on this list I urge you to pick this one up. It is short, easy to read and powerfully to the point. While reading this book I was pleasantly surprised with how simple the ancient Toltec people made living and feeling seem. Transformation begins in adopting these four simple agreements into your life and identifying self-limiting beliefs that have been taught to us from a young age. I read this book in one weekend, so if you are looking to give yourself a little self-love boost this is a quick and easy place to start!

The Mastery of Love: A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship, A Toltec Wisdom Book


This is another book by the shamanic teacher and healer, Don Miguel Ruiz. I read this book before The Four Agreements, but honestly, the order does not matter.

This book breaks down destructive ideas about love and relationships with others and with yourself. It is probably my favorite self-love book and has served the biggest benefit to me. Feel the love!

Mastering Your Mean Girl

Ladies listen up! This book is awesome! Melissa Ambrosini is a beautiful spirit, a warm and welcoming author, speaking about her early life as a dancer struggling with the pressure for success, the perfect body image, relationships, and friendships.

She shares how she found her true passion as a life coach after hitting rock bottom and collects all of her best advice into this book to help all hopeful ladies silence their inner mean girl and become the best them!

The UltraMind Solution

This is a book that I think is good for anyone, literally anyone. Not just those going through self-transformation, searching for happiness or self-love. This book looks at how what we ingest into our bodies, through what we eat actually affects the hormones and the genetic components of the brain.

Linking processed foods, sugars and a poor diet to how your mind mentally reacts. It is fascinating to learn about the link between the body and the brain. And how you can take active steps to better your mind through your body. Stopping depression, autism, and many other mental disorders through a healthy diet, body, and mind. Powerful stuff!


Happiness can be found in changing your perspectives of yourself through self-love…

What better way to change your perspective and begin a journey to self-love than by picking up a book?Learn from someone who has been there and has the knowledge to help you get there. What are you waiting for?



  1. 365daysofkindness | 28th Jul 16

    I’m the self help book queen. Love the first two; haven’t read the latter ones.

  2. 365daysofkindness | 28th Jul 16

    If you haven’t already, highly recommend “the happiness equation.” My all time favourite.

    • StephJ | 28th Jul 16

      Awesome! I will check that one out for sure! Thank you 🙂

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  4. Michelle Dawn | 28th Jul 16

    Thanks so much for sharing these!

    • StephJ | 28th Jul 16

      No problem! I hope you get to read some 😀

  5. rfdumais | 28th Jul 16

    Love the book selection. This is my main topic for blog posts so I hope I can be a small part of your journey to self love.


    • StephJ | 29th Jul 16

      Thank you! I will have to check it out.

  6. 5amt3n | 28th Jul 16

    I LOVED the “Four Agreements”! An amazing book. Thanks for posting. p.s. I’ll have to read his other book that you mention, “The Mastery of Love.”

    • StephJ | 29th Jul 16

      It is a great book! I think you will enjoy it 🙂

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  8. This wanderer | 7th Aug 16

    Thanks for sharing these books! Indeed I’ve been also looking for this kind of books and some only made you feel worst! I’m currently reading “How to stop worrying and start leaving” by Dale Carnegie, it is a bit heavy but I’m enjoying some of the insights and also sometimes I need it to be more shocking so I can really absorb the messages.

    • StephJ | 7th Aug 16

      I have heard of that book! Seems like it is pretty good. I may have to check that one out also. Thanks for reading 😊

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  10. Jill | 6th Sep 16

    I am going to look into these! I just saw Mastering your mean girl on another list so I’m gonna look into that one first! I read some really good books last month if you are interested:

    • StephJ | 6th Sep 16

      thanks I am going to check those out now!

  11. Gym Bunny Mummy | 7th Sep 16

    I’ve never read a self help book before but Mastering the Mean Girl sounds great. It really does sound like the kind of book that I would enjoy and could really help. I’m going to try this one & recommend it to my sister who is going through a tough time at the moment

    • StephJ | 7th Sep 16

      I highly recommend this book to anyone gal who needs a boost and some motivation 🙂

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  14. Nícia | 8th Dec 16

    they all seem very inspiring! i’ve heard about don miguel ruiz but not the others (besides melissa, which you talked about in another post). lets see where can i put my hands on. i’m excited to start this journey of self-discovery and self-love and leave all this downward spiral behind me. thanks for all the recommendations. <3

    • StephJ | 9th Dec 16

      No problem! I have a few extra books laying around. I can send you one if you like! You can email me your address at It would be nice to give them to someone who will enjoy reading them 😊 just let me know!

      • Nícia | 9th Dec 16

        oh my, are you serious! that’s so kind of you. <3

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  18. thebeasley | 8th Jun 17

    I really like the sound of these books. Especially the Mean Girl one! I’m adding that one to my list.

    • StephJ | 8th Jun 17

      It is a really good book! I love it 🙂

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  20. amindfultravellerblog | 19th Oct 17

    I don’t usually read these types of books so it’s great to get an insight into them. Thanks. 🙂

    • stephaniewp | 19th Oct 17

      You should read one! Perfect for Halloween and not too scary!

      • amindfultravellerblog | 19th Oct 17

        Unfortunately my reading has taken a back seat while I’ve been blogging. I’m hoping to get back into it. X

        • stephaniewp | 19th Oct 17

          I hear you! It is hard sometimes to make time for both. But reading is just good for the soul 🙂

  21. allison brown | 19th Oct 17

    So funny! This is the same topic I posted on today’s BUYB thread! I love your suggestions. I’ll add another one…The Art of Possibility, recommended by friend and fellow blogger Angela Noel @angiewrite

    • stephaniewp | 20th Oct 17

      Ohhh! I will have to check that one out! Love a good self improvement book 🙂

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