Your Fall Self Love List

By all these lovely tokens September days are here, With summer’s best of weather And autumn’s best of cheer. – Helen Hunt Jackson


Fall is the season of harvest. It is known to be a time of change and endings, a time of ultimate growth. A time to reap what is sowed. The list goes on.

All over the world cultures have rituals surrounding this magnetic time of year. Endings and beginnings have often been celebrated.

In my own personal life fall always seems to be the time for new beginnings and a great deal of growth and realizations.

Sometimes with these realizations, there has been a lot of conflict and difficulties. In change, there is often heaviness on the soul. Have you been experiencing some fall time harvests and changes in your own life?

This season is the perfect time to show yourself that little bit of extra love. Self-love is important every day but with the beginning of the new season upon us, there is really no better time to start showing yourself some love than right now!

Like the falling leaves, it is time to shed the old and embrace the new, hibernate into yourself and strengthen your relationship with yourself today and every day!

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Adopt a Daily Affirmation

So it’s a brand new season. Maybe even a brand new you. Before you start on the road to strengthening your self-love, you should begin with a solid foundation. Start your day with some loving affirmations.

For the entire season try to commit yourself to a morning affirmation as soon as you open your eyes. Open your eyes, take a deep breath and say your affirmation. Repeat as much throughout the day as you can.

If you have not used affirmations before you may think this process is a little weird but it can really transform your life. Seriously… Some of the most successful people in the world use them, and they have been known to really work! Haven’t you heard of the law of attraction people?

So how will you decide what affirmation you should commit to? What words would you say to a friend that you love to motivate them through their day?

Try some of these self-love affirmations if you’re not sure where to begin.


Take yourself on a Fall Date

What’s stopping you from enjoying a beautiful fall day by yourself?

Take a stroll in the park, carve a pumpkin, or jump in a pile of leaves. Laugh with yourself and learn how to date yourself. This may seem like a strange concept but trust me when I share this. Dating yourself is a powerful tool on the path to self-love.

A few years ago I read a blog post that changed my life at the time (I can’t remember the name of the blog). The post was on the concept of self-love. I was recently out of a long-term relationship, feeling pretty lonely and finding it difficult to emerge from my self-imposed prison of a bedroom. It was Septemeber, funny enough.

As I read more on the subject of self-love the blogger shared a story on how the greatest tool she used in learning to truly love herself was to date herself. As I read more about the concept of dating myself  I began to feel a warmth wash over me, a fuzzy feeling. I felt uplifted. I didn’t need someone to make me happy, to frolic with to laugh with. Sure I would want someone to do those things with, but I didn’t need someone. I could date myself. It felt empowering.

Humour me here people, try not to feel silly about this.

Try to commit yourself to one fall date with yourself this season. See how you like it and observe how it makes you feel. I bet you will feel like a million bucks! Who knows you might date yourself all the time and not even know it.

Check out last season’s fall date ideas and do one of them solo.

Pamper yourself

As the days get shorter and the nights get cooler fall is the “cozy up” season. Why not take this as an opportunity to revamp yourself, treat yourself and pamper yourself?

Taking care of yourself is a great way to show yourself the love you deserve. Here are some ideas on how to pamper yourself this fall season.


Try Something New

Why not try something new? I can’t think of a better way to show yourself love than by teaching yourself a new skill or finally doing that thing you always wanted to try but have always put off. Now is as good a time as any!

I have been wanting to try yoga for a long time but always came up with an excuse as to why I shouldn’t or couldn’t do it. This September at the meditation temple where I practice, a 5-week beginners yoga class became available. I took this as a sign and finally decided to put myself first, try something new and I signed up.

I feel great and I’m proud of myself for doing something by myself for myself. It really does wonders for the spirit. I urge you to do the same. Try that thing you always wanted to try! A cooking class, yoga, join the gym, an art class, a cooking class, you name it!

Say goodbye to the old and embrace this new season with a new beginning in the relationship you have with yourself.

How will you show yourself, extra love, this Fall season?




  1. peachykeen32 | 23rd Sep 16

    I love this post so much! It is so inspiring. I try to do all of these things regularly to keep myself up but sometimes we forget. I’m feeling a date in the park soon!

    • StephJ | 23rd Sep 16

      Thank you for your comment! I am happy that you liked it 🙂

  2. Allison Rebecca | 23rd Sep 16

    I am working on pampering myself more…it helps when you are working so hard to have a little down/pampering time!

  3. annafitfab | 23rd Sep 16

    I absolutely love this list! So different from the usual seasonal list.

  4. theclutterboxblog | 23rd Sep 16

    I totally am planning to take myself on many Fall Dates this year! Mostly walks to starbucks for salted caramel hot chocolates, but that’s okay!! I love your affirmation list!!

  5. Lauren - Glitter & Grandeur | 23rd Sep 16

    This is great! I am a big believer in the importance of dating yourself. I am perpetually single. Sounds ridiculous and like I’m being dramatic but I am that friend who is always single and giving dating advice. I would love to be in a relationship but I am fine not being in one. Once a month (at least) I cook myself a fancy meal, buy a nice (yet affordable, let’s be real) bottle of wine, crank up the jazz music, put on my comfy yet attractive pjs and relax. It’s the best. Add in some self-pampering with a bubble bath and a good book and I’m all set! It’s much better than many dates I’ve been on with guys. Ha! Happy fall!

  6. lizziemcculla | 23rd Sep 16

    This is so inspiring! I just pampered myself today by buying new fall outfits!

  7. Rachel Gault (@rachelgault) | 24th Sep 16

    Love this! I’m all about self-pampering!

  8. cherylfoston | 24th Sep 16


  9. Hannah Grace 2001 | 27th Sep 16

    Your blog is so beautifully laid out, and this post is just wonderful! I love the idea of focussing on me because I personally spend a lot of time on friends and their problems, so it’s good to have time for me 🙂 New follower, and you have definitely delivered! <3

    • StephJ | 28th Sep 16

      Oh thank you so much! i am happy that you enjoyed the post, and my blog! It is hard to show yourself the right kind of love sometimes, everyone needs a little reminder that it is ok! 🙂

  10. holdinggold | 29th Sep 16

    I am loving all of your posts! I am a big believer in self-care and with the chilly season approaching, bubble baths and walks in the park sound so perfect. This post made me excited for fall and inspired me to take myself on a date!! Thank you!

    • StephJ | 29th Sep 16

      Aww yay! I am glad to have inspired someone. I love reading these types of posts too, that’s why I started writing them 🙂 To uplift my own spirit and hopefully others!

  11. littleaprilshower | 3rd Oct 16

    I love the idea of a fall self-love list! I am definitely going to adopt some of those daily affirmations <3

    • StephJ | 3rd Oct 16

      Awesome! Let me know how it goes for you! Happy Fall!

  12. philipstar | 5th Oct 16

    This is a great post, Happy autumn to you all x

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  14. LivingOutLoud | 15th Oct 16

    I love this. Such a warm welcome to this beautiful fall season. Thanks for the tips! Xoxoxo.

  15. JanelleLorenzini | 31st Oct 16

    What a beautiful post, absolutely love the positive affirmations and feel as though it is extremely important to move away from the negative self-talk! Love Love Love this post!

    • StephJ | 31st Oct 16

      Thanks so much! I am glad you enjoyed 🙂

  16. Pinkspen | 18th Nov 16

    I love a strong, powerful & intelligent mind. I love it, so creative. I would love your feedback on my blog LADYHOOD I have multiple posts, most recent, “Self-Love Quotes” & “Beauty Is…” I aim to challenge women to become the best versions of themselves and push back against the pop culture standards of what a woman is. I would love some constructive criticism.
    Great post!

    • StephJ | 20th Nov 16

      Thank you so much for the comment and kind words. I am checking your blog out now 🙂

      • Pinkspen | 21st Nov 16

        I do appreciate it!!!!!!!!!!!! I hope you enjoy!

  17. IYOUWE | 24th Dec 16

    Thanks for the lovely post

  18. aloneintokyoblog | 13th Apr 17

    Love it!

    • StephJ | 13th Apr 17

      Glad you like it!

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  20. drallisonbrown | 7th Sep 17

    Great tips! I honor myself by giving myself time to follow my bliss….which, at the moment, is my writing!

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