Ramblings on Risk

Good day, beloved readers. I am looking to share some rambling thoughts with you today. I am looking for some advice and wisdom from you and myself…

Deep breath, and here we go.

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The entire meaning of the above quote is all that has been on my mind lately. An idea of risk, decisions, and potential opportunities lost. It seems I am in a purgatory of sorts. A place in between the action, change and risk and a place of comfort, stability, and normalcy.

The last thoughts before you step onto that new path that branches from your current direction. Have you ever been stuck in this strange no man’s land? Stuck between your safe normal life and a place of a great adventure?

This strange limbo seems to be the current home for my confused mind. The thoughts of change and adventure consume me but my feet are firmly planted on the ground. Such is my nature to be level-headed, to weigh my options, to advance gradually and consistently towards a known goal. I am not one for ill-planned adventures, or for risky side roads.

Inside my soul screams to take the risk, to be wild and crazy and young and do the unthinkable. Shake hands with the unknown. There is an excitement that is brewing in my mind when I think of mysterious possibilities. When the thought of this foreign adventure rears its unfamiliar head.

So which to choose? Which is the better decision? Inaction and potential regret or action and potential regret in failure?

I know I am being super vague in this post, and I will share with you all soon enough the reasons for my indecision. For the time being, I am looking for a little guidance. I am searching for the outlet needed in writing to release the swirling thoughts in my head.

“Fear stifles our thinking and actions. It creates indecisiveness that results in stagnation.”

That much is true. I have always held onto a bit of fear, the smart kind in my opinion. A healthy kind that has always benefited me. In regards to jobs, finances, and life decisions, I have always worked with that healthy fear in order to gain stability.

But has that so-called healthy fear also stifled my thinking? Made my world smaller?

What if a risk is required? What if that healthy fear has kept me from a  potential that is greater than I have allowed myself to know?

“I have known talented people who procrastinate indefinitely rather than risk failure.”

I remember reading an article awhile ago that consisted of interviews with people who were over the age of 90, some on their death bed. They were asked a series of questions, one of them being what was their greatest regret? The general themes of answers were centered around staying in touch with old friends, spending more time with family, not working so hard and traveling more during their youth.

The stories shared kind of haunt me. I keep their regrets in the back of my mind. I think of myself smiling at the age of 90 looking at a life full of love, excitement, and growth. Smiling at my memories. With very little regrets.

But what decisions do I need to make in order to be that happy old woman?

I don’t want to procrastinate my life away…

I guess that is the benefit of being young. There is so much time to make mistakes and learn from them. So much time to do everything and anything you desire. So much time that so many people waste it. Take it for granted and don’t use it.

“Lost opportunities cause erosion of confidence, and the downward spiral begins.”

So here I am on the cusp of change, at a point of making a huge life-altering, terrifying change. A chance for so many different opportunities and a chance to lose so many others.

Here I am pondering. Do I take the unknown path or do I bask in the safety of today?

Do I take a risk?


 

What would you do? Would you take the unknown path? Would you risk it all and change your life for an adventure and a new life? Or would you stay happy where you are? If happy in your current life, happy and safe and warm… What would you do?

 

21 COMMENTS

  1. Emily Sankuer | 18th Oct 16

    I understand what you’re going through. I myself have been down this path! Recently I’ve been stepping out of my comfort zone and going for promotions despite how nervous I am to advance. Once you start making steps toward what you fear, it becomes easier and easier 🙂

    • StephJ | 18th Oct 16

      Thanks! I just like to know 100% what the result will be, I guess I am afraid of change. It is encouraging to know that other people feel the same and are being brave, gives me some courage.

  2. AmalinaSN | 18th Oct 16

    Hey! I think you should take the next step whatever it may be! Instead of taking failure from it, as cheesy as it sounds, take it as an experience and a lesson, It is always hard to leave what you’re used to but we are all young and enabled to explore! 🙂

  3. nihaojulia | 18th Oct 16

    Ugh I am FOREVER in such a phase. I am fighting these feelings for so long now and try to push me every day to leave my comfort zone and reach my goals. But it is so tiring…

  4. rayneq013 | 18th Oct 16

    I would take the unknown path. You should never settle, the path might be hard and bumpy but who knows, there might be a brighter ending. Plus, staying where you are might get boring at times! I really loved your “rambling” haha. ^^

    • StephJ | 18th Oct 16

      Thank you for reading! And for the advice, I agree that sometimes staying where you are can get boring. I think that is what I am experiencing, boredom. Thanks again 🙂

  5. Innervoice | 18th Oct 16

    This kind of confusion, is something each and everyone of us have! Staying in our safe, warm present life is always much easier and reassuring than be willing to take a risk. But at the same time, we must accept the fact that no greatness or success can be achieved without willing to take risks. But yes! That doesn’t mean we endanger everything we have. We need to logically evaluate the risk involved. Mostly, it’s our unrealistic fears that hold us back. Once we learn to face them, we can win! Wishing you courage! May God guide you!

    • StephJ | 18th Oct 16

      Thank you so much for your comment. Sometimes I struggle with knowing what are healthy fears and unrealistic ones. I don’t want to hold myself back from growth. thank you for the insight 🙂

      • Innervoice | 18th Oct 16

        Wishing you good luck and success! All the best!

  6. Elizabeth | 18th Oct 16

    My birthday was yesterday, October 17th. And now that I’m older I realize one of the few really big regrets I have is that I let fear hold me back. Not the reasonable fears that keep us from doing really stupid things. I’m talking about the fear of failure that keeps us from spreading our wings.
    I think, deep down, we know what we can accomplish and we yearn to do those things but we hear that little voice tell us we shouldn’t risk failure. Ignore it.
    I watched a documentary and saw ducklings that had hatched high in a tree (I don’t know why there were there). Their mother left them there and waited for them to take the plunge. Each duckling had to step to the edge of the knot hole where they were nesting and jump. They couldn’t fly yet so they plummeted to the ground. But the earth was covered in a thick layer of soft leaves and each duckling landed safely, albeit not gracefully. That leap was the beginning of their success as ducks. So, I guess my advice is, be a brave little duckling and leap.

    • StephJ | 18th Oct 16

      Aww thank you so very much Elizabeth! Funny enough I saw that exact documentary and remember how amazed I was at those duckling! Small world. I feel very afraid to take the leap but I think there is a lot of truth in saying eventually we need to spread our wings. I hope I can gather enough bravery to take the plunge in my own life. Cheers! 🙂

  7. earthtoloz | 18th Oct 16

    Take the leap! Life is too short to be stagnant. If it goes wrong, it is just a lesson learned for the future – If you are mentally, emotionally ready, you can do this. It is fear of the unknown that is scary, but once you learn to embrace that feeling, your achievements can be endless 😃Bite the bullet and don’t be afraid, especially when you have the opportunity to do so. Xx

  8. Gal Hanukaev | 18th Oct 16

    Hey, thank you for opening your heart!
    I have so much to say so I will try to contain myself and keep it short lol 🙂 If you want to dive deeper on private, I am up for the adventure!

    Jim Carrey said once on one of his speeches “To find real peace you have to let the armor go” and that is so beautiful and true. To me deep and profound peace is happiness. You are holding on to your armor… you can’t fly if you are holding your armor, it is too heavy.

    What are you holding on to? Why are you so afraid?

    You have to remember to you will DIE one day. Your job, your money, your cloths, your warm and safe house – all of that down the toilet. God is taking care of the birds and the flowers so perfectly, why are you afraid that he won’t take care of you?

    What is the worst thing that could happen if you went towards the unknown? Really dive deep into that question… What could happen that is so terrifying?
    And because we can’t take with us to the grave anything anyway, it is never really about the ‘stuff’ we achieve, it’s about who we become by taking the step; it’s about our growth through the experience of facing our fears.

    To me, if you want to live a happy life you have to be courageous, plain and simple. Danger is real, fear is a choice; an illusion; the greatest lie of all.

    I promise you that you will be ok. What is the alternative?

    I used to live my life in a box. Making excuses and coming up with beautiful stories to justify my fear was on a daily basis.

    From the day I woke up I live my life this way : If it scares me, I do it.
    If it scares you it means there is growth there, there is experience there, there is another aspect of your being there. Don’t be afraid to lose your ‘stuff’ because they are not yours anyway. Before you die, right in that moment, you will be grateful for the courage to create memories and experiences.

    You are healthy and wise… anything else is a bonus. You are so blessed.

    Gal.

    • StephJ | 19th Oct 16

      Gal thank you very much for this thoughtful comment. So much of what you said really resonates with me, sharing your story has definitely inspired me. You are right, fear is a choice. You have inspired me with this. Thank you again!

      • Gal Hanukaev | 19th Oct 16

        That is my pleasure! I wish you amazing adventures and memories, that’s all we really have 😀

  9. Jena Proctor | 19th Oct 16

    I totally understand this. I recently quit my stable, comfortable job as a teacher. I was unhappy and it was impacting my family. I had to make a hard decision and I have never been in this position before. I had to take the road less traveled, which is very unlike me!

    • StephJ | 19th Oct 16

      That is definitely a big leap. Hope it worked out for you?

  10. Alyssa | 20th Oct 16

    I can relate 100%. I have been blogging about taking a risk. A crazy risk taking venture. What if I could live a drama free existence? Crazy risk I know! Ha! I think my experience to share on risk is embedded somewhat in my last few posts! I really enjoy reading yours!

    • StephJ | 20th Oct 16

      Thanks! I will check out your posts now.

  11. autistsix | 22nd Oct 16

    The true tragedy is if you fall into the trap many people fall into of regretting whichever you pick. Make a decision and don’t consider “what if” again. What will be will be!

    • StephJ | 22nd Oct 16

      That is great advice! I have never looked at it that way before. Something to really consider when making a choice for sure. No regrets, no looking back.

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