It is no secret that I pride myself on being an introvert. I enjoy soft cosy, quiet, intimate settings. Like many introverts, I like being alone, recharging my mind and soul with small groups if any.
No, I am not socially illiterate, or extremely awkward on purpose although I may be accidentally. No, I don’t hate people, I am not afraid of people or dislike those who are extroverted, loud and more energetic than I. Although you may get that impression by my resting b**h face. Sorry… that’s just my face.
Welcome to the life of an introvert. We are kind, caring, quiet, instinctual, creative souls who often struggle to fit into the energetic fast paced lifestyles of quick conversationalists or social butterflies.
Safe and warm with a book and blanket a cup of coffee and an old friend I feel most comfortable and happy. Blissful life.
Then… enter Christmas.
Let me first mention this before I go on and convince you all that I am a total grinch. I love Christmas, it is absolutely the most beautiful and magical time of the year. Good, just had to make sure you knew that before I continue.
Anyway as I was saying…
Christmas happens to be the loudest, craziest, most extravagant holiday on the calendar. An entire season almost entirely based on the extroversion of the most elaborate and dizzying of human beings. Seriously tell me Santa isn’t an extrovert? That ho,ho,ho?
The constant socialising, the family visits, the countless parties that you have to take part in and probably want to. I mean if there is ever a time of year to get an introvert out and glittery it is Christmas. Am I right?
Christmas also happens to be a very stressful time of year for a lot of people, it seems more and more people are flipping each other off in parking lots, pushing through department stores and family blow-ups are a more common occurrence than anyone would ever really admit.
Alright, I know I am not painting the most sparkly of pictures here, but this is a part of reality. Let’s not be ignorant here people.
Do you think part of the stress may be owed to the fact that there are so many introverts pushing the boundaries of their comfort zones to conform with the holiday seasons needs? Maybe, just maybe we are all buzzing with stress from being socially drained, not to mention financially strained.
It’s no secret that there is a lot of stress associated with Christmas and speaking from my own point of view, much of that has to do with the social aspect of it. The holiday gatherings and parties. I love it and hate it. But guess what? I know I am not alone in these feelings.
Shout out to all my fellow introverts!
Here are some tips and some actions you can take to help keep you feeling like yourself this holiday season, introverted or not. Remember just because everyone else is stressed out, angry, irritable, and broke doesn’t mean you have to be.
So Christmas is coming, it is racing towards us like always with alarming speed. Please don’t find yourself overwhelmed with a blurry head this Christmas season. As an introvert, as a human being, you are setting yourself up for stress and Christmas issues if you go into this without a plan. I mean it is a jungle out there.
Solution? Grab your calendar and notebook and start making a plan and some good old fashion Christmas lists. Saint Nicolas does it, why not you? Besides, we introverts love a good list. A list for gift ideas, a list of Christmas groceries and a list of all those holiday events you are probably getting invited to.
The benefit of preparation is many. Lists for gift ideas allows you to be less driven by impulse buys and gives purpose to your shopping, helping save you from overspending. Grocery lists allow you to gather some of those food supplies early. For instance, if you plan on doing a lot of baking why wait until the last minute to get flour and all that good stuff? As for a calendar? Well, there is nothing worse than committing to three parties on the same night if you catch my drift.
So whether you start planning in September or December going into this holiday season with a plan will help. I promise!
Online shopping has saved me from so much stress during the holiday season, it is a wonderful thing, truly. Of course, in order to online shop effectively, you need to have a plan as I mentioned above…
Once you know what is on your Christmas list check out the black Friday sales online instead of rushing through crowded stressful stores. Cyber Monday is another great shopping option, most stores have great deals online and you can do the bulk of the shopping from the comfort of your own home.
It may be a myth that all introverts are creative, but many I know are. As a crafty introvert myself I have found that making presents for people is not only something I really enjoy but also a great cheaper gifting present option.
Crafting is a wonderful way to relieve stress and as introverts, it’s a great activity to calm you and have fun. So whether it is making a wreath, homemade gifts or just wrapping a pretty present you should try to incorporate making some festive homemade gear this Christmas. Besides, people love homemade gifts, once upon a time that was all anyone ever got. It is nice to get back to the Christmas basics.
So Christmas has arrived and it’s party time. Which is awesome but maybe a little anxiety producing if you are trying to make a good impression with your co-workers or trying to convince the social pros out there that you are not only cool but comfortable.
Something that works for me is relaxing and keeping a low profile during the day before a party that evening. This gives you the chance to charge up and prepare in a calm way for a party.
This might be the opposite of a extroverts pre-party warm-up, but for me, it works great as a way to transition into the lights, music and action of a holiday party.
There are work parties, family parties, friends parties, party parties. There are the obligated events like your aunt’s annual Christmas eve bash or your friend’s gift exchange, but what about all those other parties and visiting?
How can you be expected to attend them all and survive all at the same time? If you are like me you would probably rather be home watching Elf, or sipping on hot chocolate instead of attending your great aunt’s brunch.
Take a look at all the events big and small you have been asked to and decide on a few that you really would love to go to and ditch the rest. Seriously just don’t go. You know your limits and you deserve downtime this Christmas season too. Spend a night at home with the people who really matter or all by your glorious self. It’s called boundaries people, your not a grinch for setting them.
During the Christmas holidays, it is important for us introverts to have our recharge days. Choose a day to spend at home, watch some Christmas movies, get a relaxing bath or read. It is essential to do this before and after the Christmas rush. You don’t have to wait until after boxing day to give yourself permission to settle down.
Light the fireplace, cosy up with some tea and chill out. After all, these are the holidays, don’t forget to relax and take a break.
Christmas is my favourite time of year, it allows me to be someone I am normally not. I push myself to frolic and play, get all dressed up and socialise and make time to see people that I may have neglected during the rest of the year.
But I have learned that in order to remain cheerful and jolly I need to take some time for me too. Maybe we all need to adopt that attitude, not just introverts.
Wishing you all the happiest holiday season.
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