6 Ways to Survive the Holidays: Introvert Style

It is no secret that I pride myself on being an introvert. I enjoy soft cosy, quiet, intimate settings. Like many introverts, I like being alone, recharging my mind and soul with small groups if any.

No, I am not socially illiterate, or extremely awkward on purpose although I may be accidentally. No, I don’t hate people, I am not afraid of people or dislike those who are extroverted, loud and more energetic than I. Although you may get that impression by my resting b**h face. Sorry… that’s just my face.

Welcome to the life of an introvert. We are kind, caring, quiet, instinctual, creative souls who often struggle to fit into the energetic fast paced lifestyles of quick conversationalists or social butterflies.

Well basically…

Safe and warm with a book and blanket a cup of coffee and an old friend I feel most comfortable and happy. Blissful life.

Then… enter Christmas.

Let me first mention this before I go on and convince you all that I am a total grinch. I love Christmas, it is absolutely the most beautiful and magical time of the year. Good, just had to make sure you knew that before I continue.

Anyway as I was saying…

Christmas happens to be the loudest, craziest, most extravagant holiday on the calendar. An entire season almost entirely based on the extroversion of the most elaborate and dizzying of human beings. Seriously tell me Santa isn’t an extrovert? That ho,ho,ho?

The constant socialising, the family visits, the countless parties that you have to take part in and probably want to. I mean if there is ever a time of year to get an introvert out and glittery it is Christmas. Am I right?

Christmas also happens to be a very stressful time of year for a lot of people, it seems more and more people are flipping each other off in parking lots, pushing through department stores and family blow-ups are a more common occurrence than anyone would ever really admit.

Alright, I know I am not painting the most sparkly of pictures here, but this is a part of reality. Let’s not be ignorant here people.

Do you think part of the stress may be owed to the fact that there are so many introverts pushing the boundaries of their comfort zones to conform with the holiday seasons needs? Maybe, just maybe we are all buzzing with stress from being socially drained, not to mention financially strained.

It’s no secret that there is a lot of stress associated with Christmas and speaking from my own point of view, much of that has to do with the social aspect of it. The holiday gatherings and parties. I love it and hate it. But guess what? I know I am not alone in these feelings.

Shout out to all my fellow introverts!

Here are some tips and some actions you can take to help keep you feeling like yourself this holiday season, introverted or not. Remember just because everyone else is stressed out, angry, irritable, and broke doesn’t mean you have to be.

Happy holidays!

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Prepare a Plan

So Christmas is coming, it is racing towards us like always with alarming speed. Please don’t find yourself overwhelmed with a blurry head this Christmas season. As an introvert, as a human being, you are setting yourself up for stress and Christmas issues if you go into this without a plan. I mean it is a jungle out there.

Solution? Grab your calendar and notebook and start making a plan and some good old fashion Christmas lists. Saint Nicolas does it, why not you? Besides, we introverts love a good list. A list for gift ideas, a list of Christmas groceries and a list of all those holiday events you are probably getting invited to.

The benefit of preparation is many. Lists for gift ideas allows you to be less driven by impulse buys and gives purpose to your shopping, helping save you from overspending. Grocery lists allow you to gather some of those food supplies early. For instance, if you plan on doing a lot of baking  why wait until the last minute to get flour and all that good stuff? As for a calendar? Well, there is nothing worse than committing to three parties on the same night if you catch my drift.

So whether you start planning in September or December going into this holiday season with a plan will help. I promise!

Online Shopping

Online shopping has saved me from so much stress during the holiday season, it is a wonderful thing, truly.  Of course, in order to online shop effectively, you need to have a plan as I mentioned above…

Once you know what is on your Christmas list check out the black Friday sales online instead of rushing through crowded stressful stores. Cyber Monday is another great shopping option, most stores have great deals online and you can do the bulk of the shopping from the comfort of your own home.

Get Crafty

It may be a myth that all introverts are creative, but many I know are. As a crafty introvert myself I have found that making presents for people is not only something I really enjoy but also a great cheaper gifting present option.

Crafting is a wonderful way to relieve stress and as introverts, it’s a great activity to calm you and have fun. So whether it is making a wreath, homemade gifts or just wrapping a pretty present you should try to incorporate making some festive homemade gear this Christmas. Besides, people love homemade gifts, once upon a time that was all anyone ever got. It is nice to get back to the Christmas basics.

Chill all Day. Party all Night

So Christmas has arrived and it’s party time. Which is awesome but maybe a little anxiety producing if you are trying to make a good impression with your co-workers or trying to convince the social pros out there that you are not only cool but comfortable.

Something that works for me is relaxing and keeping a low profile during the day before a party that evening. This gives you the chance to charge up and prepare in a calm way for a party.

This might be the opposite of a extroverts pre-party warm-up, but for me, it works great as a way to transition into the lights, music and action of a holiday party.

Commit to a Few Key Events

There are work parties, family parties, friends parties, party parties. There are the obligated events like your aunt’s annual Christmas eve bash or your friend’s gift exchange, but what about all those other parties and visiting?

How can you be expected to attend them all and survive all at the same time? If you are like me you would probably rather be home watching Elf, or sipping on hot chocolate instead of attending your great aunt’s brunch.

Take a look at all the events big and small you have been asked to and decide on a few that you really would love to go to and ditch the rest. Seriously just don’t go. You know your limits and you deserve downtime this Christmas season too. Spend a night at home with the people who really matter or all by your glorious self. It’s called boundaries people, your not a grinch for setting them.

Don’t Forget to Recharge

During the Christmas holidays, it is important for us introverts to have our recharge days. Choose a day to spend at home, watch some Christmas movies, get a relaxing bath or read. It is essential to do this before and after the Christmas rush. You don’t have to wait until after boxing day to give yourself permission to settle down.

Light the fireplace, cosy up with some tea and chill out. After all, these are the holidays, don’t forget to relax and take a break.

Christmas is my favourite time of year, it allows me to be someone I am normally not. I push myself to frolic and play, get all dressed up and socialise and make time to see people that I may have neglected during the rest of the year.

But I have learned that in order to remain cheerful and jolly I need to take some time for me too. Maybe we all need to adopt that attitude, not just introverts.

Wishing you all the happiest holiday season.



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  1. jen | 7th Dec 16

    Great tips, especially to recharge, so important this time of year!

  2. randyjw | 7th Dec 16

    Very nice post, Steph!

  3. queencitypetite | 7th Dec 16

    Another great post! Very helpful

    • StephJ | 7th Dec 16

      Thank you very much 🙂

  4. Alexandra Yargeau | 7th Dec 16

    I’m totally an introvert, so my husband and I always plan two different times to leave events. 1. If it is going great, and we want to stay. 2. If it is weird, and feels rushed, and we just want to leave.

    • StephJ | 7th Dec 16

      It is good to have a plan going into it isn’t it? I like to not commit to staying late and if I end up staying because I had a good time then great, if its not so great then I don’t feel bad leaving early 🙂

  5. ladybug165 | 7th Dec 16

    Very good tips ! I’m like that to I would rather just stay home and watch a movie. I like that idea of just saying no to somebody if you don’t feel like going.

    • StephJ | 7th Dec 16

      Yes! And not making up an excuse. Although I know some people probably would get offended if they don’t get it.

  6. gailthefabulaphile | 7th Dec 16

    Good tips, I will definitely use them. Especially the calender one. I love making lists, but I always forget to keep up with a planner (even though I get one every year). It’s nice to have a plan, maybe I should start keeping my planner with me more 🙂

    • StephJ | 7th Dec 16

      I feel the same way. I was thinking about getting a smaller one that I could fit in my purse, or at the very least start utilizing my phone one more.

  7. Erin | 7th Dec 16

    These are good tips! I try to do some online shopping and I also have learned not to over commit myself for too many events.

  8. Essentially Mel (@essentiallymel) | 7th Dec 16

    I am right there with you and think your tips are spot on. Fortunately though, both my boyfriend and I are introverts so we don’t get many party invitations to suffer through. 😀

    • StephJ | 7th Dec 16

      Haha. The opposite is true for me. My boyfriend is a extrovert a constant battle. 😊

  9. alexafederico | 7th Dec 16

    I can totally relate! I am such an introvert. Grouping up I always felt a little different, because I didn’t (and still don’t) always want to partake in group events all of the time. I especially connect with the relaxing during the day to party at night, I do this whenever I plan to go out! 🙂

    • StephJ | 7th Dec 16

      It is a great help!

  10. Jon | 7th Dec 16

    Great advice! I’m getting my shopping done EARLY this year to avoid the crowds before Christmas. Thanks for the advice!

  11. Kate | 7th Dec 16

    These are amazing tips! I totally agree with not all introverts are crafty *points to self* but even if I’m a crafting newb, I try to do some when I need to not think of uni life 😄
    I just found your blog and ohmigosh, I LOVE IT SO MUCH! Have a nice day!

    • StephJ | 7th Dec 16

      Thank you soooo much! That is very kind of you. Come back anytime 😊

      • Kate | 7th Dec 16

        Sure will! Keep being awesome 😊

  12. Kwame | 8th Dec 16

    These tips are spot on. I’ve got a busy holiday season planned and I will make time to recharge or I will be one grumpy woman. Lol.

  13. taylorannes95 | 8th Dec 16

    These are awesome tips. I’ve been describes as an introverted extrovert so this is helpful.

  14. Suzanne Spiegoski-Decamps | 9th Dec 16

    I’m all about online shopping, those crowds are too much for me.

  15. Brenda | 10th Dec 16

    As an introvert also yes to the above. Especially the recharging. I enjoy a good party but to recharge I so need my alone time. Thanks for giving us all a reminder.

    • StephJ | 10th Dec 16

      Hope you found it useful!

  16. mrsmurfinscountrylife | 10th Dec 16

    Waving at a fellow introvert. Hi!
    these are great tips. and my favourite tips is – no one ever died from saying no thanks I don’t want to.

    • StephJ | 10th Dec 16

      haha so true! But so hard to actually do. It becomes easier with practice though. No guilt here.

  17. charandtheweb | 15th Dec 16

    Absolutely love this! There’s nothing wrong with being an introvert, we just like to do things a different way. Christmas stresses me out. The amount of parties, the amount of gifts, you don’t want to miss or leaving anyone out – and I want to do everything right, so that equals a stressful time for me. Online shopping is something I don’t usually enjoy (I like to just stroll around) but it is definitely a blessing during the holiday season. Lots of presents bought in a short amount of time. Great tips, and I’m loving your blog too.

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  18. Iridescence | 8th Jan 17

    These are good tips to keep up with the holidays for us all!

  19. feels4ever | 11th Jan 17

    That’s a lot helpful^^
    I’ll give it a try, thanks~

  20. ellenbest24 | 23rd Nov 17

    We like to give as many family as possible a good meal and a chance to get together on a day as near to Christmas as they can do. People have so many commitments so taking the pressure off THE day we think helps. G+

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