The Calm Before the Storm – Proactive Stress Relief

There are phases which are extra tough and push us in ways we never thought was possible. It could be a new job that is at a higher skill level, becoming a parent or moving to a new country. Looking at these changes and not get overwhelmed is hard. Choosing to look at life’s challenges as opportunities and push them to thrive can make us stronger.

I believe life’s challenges can bring out the best in us. Being aware and taking care of our mind and body can make a huge difference in energy levels and having the patience to deal with everything life throws at us. Putting yourself first is the only way to practice self-love. Turn off the autopilot mode inside you and remind yourself this is only a phase.

  • Become mindful of what triggers you, exercise self-control by practicing deep breathing.
  • Start making it a habit to stop and take three deep breaths before tackling a difficult issue.
  • If that isn’t enough take a long walk outside and clear your mind.
  • Take a few breaks to recharge, don’t wait until you are out of energy.
  • Meditation for a few minutes a day, for example, five or ten if you can do wonders to reduce burn out from daily life.
  • Sit in a quiet area of your home, in a chair or on the floor, close your eyes and take two deep breaths. Stay still for as long as you need to. This pause helps to clear out the negative thoughts and become present. If that isn’t enough.
  • Go for a walk and talk to a supportive friend or family member who wants the best for you and isn’t judgemental. Vent and ask for help. Getting a more experienced perspective can take away anxiety.
  • I love to check out my local library for some quiet time and self-love reflection.
  • To start just write anything to get all the messy thoughts out. Once done, it is much easier to write out dreams and turn them into goals, or simply take a seat and listen to an audiobook by the window.
  • Be good to yourself and stop the negative chatter. Stop the criticism and anxiety about things you can’t control. Becoming a new parent everyone has an opinion and it is even more important to filter out the good from the useless information.
  • Keep your head up and stop people with a thank you and walk away. Be focused and confident in your abilities. Accept who you are and work on getting better.
  • Make yourself a top priority and practice it on a daily basis, don’t be hard on yourself if it doesn’t work every time. I like to start my day with yoga I love the sun salutation which I repeat a minimum of three times.
  • For breakfast, I love a quick warm oatmeal with some blueberries and honey followed by a matcha tea or a green tea to start my day.
  • Energy to get through the day without multiple cups of coffee is one way to survive daily life. Taking care of your body through exercise and a balanced diet will do wonders for dealing with life.
  • Set up an appointment with your doctor then find a nutritionist to help guide you. Through them work on a custom fitness and meal plan for yourself.
  • For success get a friend or your partner for support. I believe to change old habits and develop self-love habits takes time and a partner can help speed up the process and keep us accountable and on track.
  • For those times when life gets extra stressful, choose an evening or two and take a warm bath with deep sea salts with relaxing instrumental music.
  • Turn off all electronics an hour before bed, (no smartphone in the bedroom) and make a cup of matcha tea get into some cozy lounge clothing including a sleep mask and read a book in bed. The main point is to make yourself sleepy and go to sleep as early as possible.

Self-love is taking care of yourself in an unconditionally loving way. Simply be good to yourself and not feel guilty about it. End the criticism and empower your mind and body. Know what your triggers are and find simple and effective ways to recharge and deal with stress. Always remember the things in life that take time and worth working for is self-love of yourself.

To find other stress relief ideas check out this post. 


About the Author

Allyson is a mother by day and chef to the family. By night she is an artist drawing, writing and creating.

Born and raised in Toronto she was always inspired by this incredibly diverse city. She studied graphic design and worked for a few years, but never stopped her love for writing. She started her blog to share her love of design and writing.




  1. Invisibly Me | 26th Nov 17

    Some fab tips! “To start just write anything to get all the messy thoughts out.” – I find this can be really cathartic to do, but I don’t do it often enough. And I definitely need to get started on yoga (I even bought a mat, but then having recently pulled my rib muscles again I haven’t been able to start) so I’ll pencil that in for when I’m able to manage it.

    Could I be cheeky and ask what blog template you use lovely?
    Caz 🙂

  2. GiGi Eats Celebrities | 30th Nov 17

    I know how to balance putting myself first without being a selfish B****. It’s hard to do for many people, but the way I was raised truly shaped how I can manage to make this happen. Your tips on how to do it are pretty spot on! 🙂

  3. Leah Kanaan | 8th Dec 17

    This is a great post. I tend to over stress about things and it’s the worst.

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