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Who is this Person? Self Love & Dating

  A few weeks after I locked the door on my husband for the last time, I went out with friends to a bar. After twelve years in a relationship, I had no intention of dating anyone for a very long time.  I wanted only a nice night out, away from all the worries of filing for divorce and the hard conversations I knew were coming. I don’t even know if he came up to me, or I to him. But I remember he wore a soft, white turtleneck sweater, and he spoke with the most glorious accent. His…

Fall Self Care List

For many falls is simply the best time of the year. The world seems to transform into a crisp colorful scene in a romance novel. Or a horror flick. Whatever tickles your fancy. The business of summer fun starts to dwindle and the coziness of a slower season starts to set in. There is a certain amount of romance that is associated with Fall. Pink cheeks and red noses. Warm blankets, thick scarfs and sweet scents. Fall is also one of my favorite times of year to get back into a self-care mindset. Through spending more time at home…

Searching for Happiness- The Poison of Resentment

“Resentment is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die. ”  ― Carrie Fisher How does resentment manifest in your life and how does feeding the mouth of this greedy emotion help fuel your own inner emotional demise? Resentment is a key player on the enemies team. Trust me, I know! So what and who is this adversary? By definition, resentment is bitter indignation at having been treated unfairly. For years the feelings of resentment can lay veiled in our emotions completely unnoticed. Disguising itself with a camouflage of more attractive emotions like agitation, anger, and jealousy, to name…

Now Live: Festive Feelings Blog Party

Welcome to Scale it Simple’s Festive Feelings Blog Party! What better way to embrace the holiday spirit than to turn on a bit of Bing Crosbie, grab an eggnog and, read some awesome blog posts all while meeting new blogging friends? The rules are simple. 1. Choose one of your favourite blog posts from your own blog, any and all kinds of posts are welcome. (Anything untasteful or inappropriate will be removed.) You can share up to three links. Wait some time in between your posts for best results. 2. Paste the link in the comment section of this…

Your Invite: Festive Feelings Blog Party

You have been  invited to Scale it Simple’s Festive Feelings Blog Party! Hooray, it is almost here! What better way to embrace the holiday spirit than to turn on the Christmas lights, grab an eggnog and, read some awesome blog posts all while meeting new blogging friends? This blogging party will be an opportunity for you to share your blog posts with a larger community and connect with like-minded creative people! There is no theme for this blogging party, all posts are welcome as long as they are tasteful and the content is appropriate! Fashion, crafts, lifestyle, fiction…

5 Quotes to Help Practice Kindness & Patience

Good day, beautiful people. I feel frustrated by people lately, by the unkindness of others and in return the unkindness of myself dealing with those people through my agitation. Are you following me? Basically, people can be difficult to deal with. Sometimes I wonder why people put themselves on a pedestal and try to keep others below them in some way. Driven by a false sense of status. Many people place themselves on a pedestal held high on top of their material status in life, position in their careers, material wealth, age. This is such an unhealthy way of living…

Is Projection Ruining your Relationships?

“Life is a series of events and sensations. Everything else is interpretation. Much is lost in translation and added in assumption/projection” ― Rasheed Ogunlaru Hello fellow happiness searchers, life livers, realists, optimists, and projectionists. Allow me to introduce you to my newest self-discovery… projection. Buckle up. What is projection theory? According to Freudian theory, these are illicit desires, and in (rational emotive and cognitive behavior therapy R.E.C.B.T), they are ideas about ourselves that we can’t accept. The reason they are unacceptable is that they negatively reflect how you feel you “should” be. It…

3 Benefits of Putting yourself First

Attention people pleasers! This post is for you. There was a time when I would all too often put the needs of others ahead of my own. I was the “mother hen” always looking out for the best interest of the group. The result… I was *$%*ing miserable. What I have learned is that putting yourself first is truly the best thing you can do for not only for yourself but also for the people in your life. Oh and people can take care of themselves, that’s a new thought I am warming up to…

Searching for Happiness – The Benefits of Honesty

What is it about honesty that brings me so much joy? I feel so safe and reassured in the arms of honest words. Well, you know… if words had arms or whatever. For many it is the opposite, happiness grows from blindness, from dishonesty, from “what I don’t know can’t hurt me.” I guess there is truth in that also. What you don’t know can’t hurt you… yet. But it can hurt you eventually. When you shield yourself from honesty and keep things from yourself and those you…

Bloggers Wanted!

Hello, dear blogging pals! So unless you have been living under a rock or in some fancy cave you have no doubt heard of PINTEREST! Yes, that’s right Pinterest. It’s time to get out there people, it is time for all of us to join this big Pinterest world together! As an avid Pinterester I have been using this for years for my own personal use, but now the winds of change are a blowing and I feel like it’s time to branch out there. So… I created a Pinterest board, Blogging Pals…