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Who is this Person? Self Love & Dating

  A few weeks after I locked the door on my husband for the last time, I went out with friends to a bar. After twelve years in a relationship, I had no intention of dating anyone for a very long time.  I wanted only a nice night out, away from all the worries of filing for divorce and the hard conversations I knew were coming. I don’t even know if he came up to me, or I to him. But I remember he wore a soft, white turtleneck sweater, and he spoke with the most glorious accent. His…

Fall Self Care List

For many falls is simply the best time of the year. The world seems to transform into a crisp colorful scene in a romance novel. Or a horror flick. Whatever tickles your fancy. The business of summer fun starts to dwindle and the coziness of a slower season starts to set in. There is a certain amount of romance that is associated with Fall. Pink cheeks and red noses. Warm blankets, thick scarfs and sweet scents. Fall is also one of my favorite times of year to get back into a self-care mindset. Through spending more time at home…

Life Updates: Vol. III – Goodbyes are Hard

In Buddhism, we are always talking about attachment. Attachment to people, material things, feelings, thoughts, everything. So I am really trying to check myself here lately because… I am moving. Being a Buddhist is hard. My relationship with this old apartment of mine runs pretty deep. In fact my feelings kind of surprise me. I moved in almost 4 years ago. Wide-eyed and ready to grab change and my life by the short and curlies. I found this cute little apartment that was a great price in a great location. The timing was right so I went for…

Searching for Happiness – Becoming Fearless

“The only way to ease our fear and be truly happy is to acknowledge our fear and look deeply at its source. Instead of trying to escape from our fear, we can invite it up to our awareness and look at it clearly and deeply.” ~ Thich Nhat Hanh I recently completed level two Shambhala training. For those of you who do not know what Shambhala is, allow me to explain myself. Shambhala is a form of Tibetan Buddhism in which I have been practicing for over a year now. Last fall I attended level one training, a meditation retreat on…

30 Day Self Care Challenge

Self-care can be difficult to get into the habit of doing for ourselves. It is a sad truth. We would rather tackle a laundry list of items for our households, work, and family before we even begin thinking about taking time for ourselves. What is the deal with that? It takes more than one special moment or one day to cultivate the real love within you that you may have been neglecting from yourself. This is why I created this 30-day self-care challenge. If you are like me then perhaps you need to challenge yourself in order…

Everything you Need to Know about Self love vs Selfishness

Whenever I read the comments on my self-love posts I am always left a little surprised by the number of people who feel that self-love is not for them. There are many different reasons for this, but a common excuse is they don’t want to be selfish. So many people (moms in particular) feel guilty about taking time for themselves because they are convinced somehow that showing themselves love will take away from others in their lives. Those same people are often the ones who share stories of how stressed and exhausted they are. They are…

Three Books that Taught me About Self-Love

Reading about the topic of self-love has always been the best way I have learned about my own personal limiting believes and have been able to grow and expand my goals, outlook, and perspectives. I reached out to an amazing blogger whos blog has inspired me in so many ways. Lecy from A Simpler Grace. I asked Lecy to share with us her favorite books that have taught her about self-love in her own life. Get out a pen because you might want to add these to your summer reading list. Hi! I’m Lecy and I…

Searching for Happiness- PT5: Evolving your Environment

You made it! This is the final part in my latest Searching for Happiness series. 1: Body Gentleness 2: Nourishing your Mind 3: Healthy Relationships 4: Supporting your Spirit I truly believe with the help of these 5 posts you can start transforming your life into a more content and real manifestation of what you want, or at the very least stop and think about a few small changes you might want to start making. I would like to finish this off by talking about enriching your environment. Now that you have the tools you need to take care of…

Searching for Happiness – PT4: Supporting your Spirit

Hi there, it is me again. It is week four of this new super cool  Searching for Happiness series and now we are getting into the deep bits. Today’s post is all about the spirit. No not the holy spirit or the one in your basement, the cool kind, the fun kind. Is it just me or do people tend to look at you like you are a weirdo hippy, a nonmodern idiot or a judgmental hypocrite when you talk about religion or spirituality anymore? Ok, that may be a little dramatic. However, I do kind of feel…

Searching for Happiness – Part 3: Healthy Relationships

Welcome back, and to part three of this new series. Today I will be talking about healthy relationships. Because basically, I am an expert on those matters. Kidding. I am but a normal gal who is trying to find what works. So I wrote out this master list, a nonexpert normal person list about how to have healthy relationships. I hope you can find some honest and useful takeaways from this post. Cheers! Make date night a priority: Even if you can only squeeze it in once a month, it is important to spend quality time with your sweetums. Check…